What's the best choice?

Ok, right now my husband (Rog) is on a local run. Home everyday and each weekend. Also paid by the hour. However, he delivers to restaurants and he has to unload all the product. This is about killing him because he's not at all a big guy. Most of the loads he takes in on his hand cart weigh anywhere from 100lbs and up.
It's getting hard on him, hurting his back, etc. He's also fallen on some of the stairs these places have because they are filthy.

He has the oportunity to go drive for his dad. His dad has 2 trucks and gets really good runs. This also means a move for the family.
We've been thinking about this for a long time now, but are still undecided.

Driving for his dad has the following 'pros'...
Rog will get the experience he needs for running his dad's company when he inherits it.
He also will be available to take care of his dad more because his dad isn't in the best of health, although he won't admit it.
Also, he won't have to unload.
It also gives the family an opportunity of living in a new place and probably being able to afford to buy a house.
As for pay, it will be close to or a little more than he is making right now.


So, what would you do?
We have more than just a 'job' to consider in this. We also have his dad's interests to consider.

[Admin]

THAT WOULD BE NO QUESTION AT ALL FOR ME. BUILD HIS DADS COMPANY UP AND THE MONEY STAYS IN THE FAMILY. HE GETS THE BUSINESS ANYWAY.

i will run otr all the way

That is definately another bonus.

[scubadiver]

That sounds like a good deal, but there are cons too. Working for/with family can be difficult. Plus with Rog's Dad health and helping running the business can be very stressfull, plus the stress of moving. I know this sounds crass and it isn't meant to be, but one has to consider such things. I've known family memebers that have worked together. The relationships have suffer due to the small stuff that isn't normally a problem , but it can also strengthen the relationship too.

You are right Scuby. And I do agree, there can be problems.

Rog has worked for/with his dad before, so he basically knows what to expect.
We also look at the point that Rog will learn the business from his dad and that will help tremendously in the future. I also have to learn parts of is, as i will be doing some of the paper work for them. Not sure I am looking forward to that, but it comes with the territory.

[Big_Dave]

I also have to learn parts of is, as i will be doing some of the paper work for them. Not sure I am looking forward to that, but it comes with the territory.
Once you get used to it.........in about 35 years :yikes: , it isn't too bad. The laws and regs are constantly changing, so you will have to stay on your toes.

[White Dog]

You're asking the wrong people.

You need to put it through a vote with your kids. (I think you have 4 if I remember right)

Moving to a new school can be traumatic on some kids, and (IMO) not fair.

I have moved my kids one time as they were both in Junior High, and it did'nt seem to bother them much.

They made friends quickly and fit in well right away. But that may not be the case for all kids.

Some kids get excited at the thought, but others may jump in a shell and become depressed.

Signed Dr. White Dog, chid psycoligist :harhar:

[Capt._Chaos]

That sounds like a good deal, but there are cons too. Working for/with family can be difficult. Plus with Rog's Dad health and helping running the business can be very stressfull, plus the stress of moving. I know this sounds crass and it isn't meant to be, but one has to consider such things. I've known family memebers that have worked together. The relationships have suffer due to the small stuff that isn't normally a problem , but it can also strengthen the relationship too.

I agree wholeheartedly with this statement. It's very seldom a good idea to mix business and family. Must look at both sides, positive & negative.

[nitestar]

just my 2 cts worth,
but in this move to his dads business . Will there be med coverage for your family and does he have it now?

If he is on the road how will he learn the business?

You on the other hand will have a great oportunity to learn the inner workings of the business.

As ADMIN said:
THAT WOULD BE NO QUESTION AT ALL FOR ME. BUILD HIS DADS COMPANY UP AND THE MONEY STAYS IN THE FAMILY. HE GETS THE BUSINESS ANYWAY.

Most times Family members have a hard time working together and it is the small things that tend to grow up to be the rip that tears you apart.

Not intened to cut or flame you. Just wanted to make a point to consider.

Best of luck in your decision. Hope it works out for all of you.

[Messyme]

Well Karen since I know Rog's dad as a personal friend, I can only say to go with this once in a lifetime chance. :D

Of course Rog's dad will set limits and requirements for driving the truck as any good businessman would do. Rog has to agree to abide by them.

I see it all as a good thing for everyone.

Yes Steph, you are correct. ;)
And since you know his dad, you know it's a good opportunity for us. He's a good guy and only wants the best for his son.

As for the kids moving, they have been in the same school since '98. This would only be the second time that they would have ever changed schools, and the first time for the youngest. We thoroughly discussed this with them, and they look forward to the move. We know there will be some major hurdles, especially with the middle son, but I am confident we can work through them together.

Insurance is one thing we have discussed, and we will have to cover our own.

We pretty much made a decision today about it. We have until the end of May before Rog can actually do anyting concerning it anyway, but we have a plan at this point.
It's a start. :D

[Pipester]

Get a vote from the kids...I'm sure they want to be closer to grandpa...and GO FOR IT !!